These past couple of weeks have seen me hearing about a lot of tragic loss in people’s lives.
As a Pastor and Counselor, when you hear about such horrible news as the passing of one of your friends sons, your mind instantly goes to a hundred Bible verses and platitudes that you can say to them to help make them “feel better”.
Here is the truth – it won’t make them feel better. In fact it could end up making things worse as it often comes off a cliche and trite. I have been struggling this week to find the right words to help people through some of worst suffering they will ever go through.
So on my way home today, God had me turn on the 80’s channel and the band Extreme reminded to that sometimes, you need to help people with “More Than Words.”
Think about trying to console a parent whose 20 year old son passed away in a freak accident. These are often the times when people pull away from God or even blame God for this happening. Yet, God tells us that He weeps when we weep – He grieves when we grieve. He will NEVER LEAVE US NOR FORSAKE US, especially in great times of sorrow or need.
Extreme gave me these sage words of advice to help people remember that often times, we need more than words, we need to know that God has a plan for all of the mess we live in and through. I’ll let Extreme say it for me:
“Now that I’ve tried to talk to you and make you understand,
All you have to do is close your eyes
And just reach out your hands, and touch me,
Hold me close, don’t ever let me go
More than words is all I ever needed you to show
Then you wouldn’t have to say that you love me
Cause I’d already know”
I couldn’t have said it better myself – or actually not said it better. Just be there for people in their times of greatest need – words can come later.
Have a blessed weekend everyone!
Pastor Brad Komgenick