You will hear me say this over and over in my posts here on the blog – we were created for two purposes – first and foremost, to have an intimate relationship with God and secondly, to have close, personal relationship with other people.
Why is this? Why would God not want us just to focus of him? After all we are taught in the Bible that other people will always let us down, but God never will, so why invest in people when I already know going in that they are going to disappoint me?
Well the first reason is because God said so!! In John 15:12 we are told, “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” That is a pretty clear command from God isn’t it? Plain and simply, God loves us unconditionally, no matter what we have done, are doing, or will do, God loves us. Jesus died for us to pay our debt to God for all of our sin, past, present, and future. God tells us to love others this same way. It simply isn’t for us to debate or question. If God said it, then we are to try our best to do it. Will we always be successful in doing this? Nope, we are human and we mess up. But just like when we eat pizza while we are on a diet, you do not then say, “Well I blew my diet so I am never going to eat food again!” Good luck with that. No instead we brush ourselves off, and get back on the horse for another try. God wants us to love others unconditionally. Being connected to others is what keeps us grounded in love. It stops us from getting a big head and becoming proud of ourselves. It gives us the chance to put others needs ahead of our own just like Jesus did for us.
The second reason is that God knows that sooner or later we are going to have troubles and need help and when these times come, it is always best to be surrounded by people who love you and who are willing to jump in and help in a heartbeat. God tells us again in Ecclesiastes 4:10, “But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”
Have you ever had a time in your life when things were heading south for you and what you wanted most in the world is to have someone else sitting in the bottom of the well with you – not to try to fix things, but just to be there for comfort and support? I know I have and I am grateful to God for the many people who pour themselves into my life and always are the first ones there to pick me up when I fall.
Let me give you some examples that help you better understand our need for other people:
- Children whose parents tune in to their emotional state have much better success later in life.
- Marriages in which emotional intimacy thrives can better weather life’s trials.
- People with a support system of friends with whom they feel safe being vulnerable have fewer health problems.
- Churches that feature not only good pulpit teaching but also small groups create healthier disciples.
- Companies that pay attention to relationships, as well as to their profits, enjoy improved performance.
The statistics do not lie, and neither does God. We need each other! Connectedness is not just something nice to have, it is a must if you intend to live life as God intended you to live.
Small groups at church are always a very safe and sure way to make the kind of close friendships that you need to help get you through the tough times in life. You cannot go wrong meeting people who are not afraid to admit that they are just as messed up as you are and let me tell you that all churches are absolutely full of these types of people, God’s people.
Father, it is my prayer that you will bring close friendships to whomever reads this that need other people to help them through the trials in their lives. None of us ever like to feel alone God. When you saw that Adam was lonely, you created Eve and even said, “It is not good for man to be alone.” All people should always know they are never alone because You are always with us Father. But as You know, it helps us when we have other people to confide in and to know us as we truly are and still love us anyway. Thank you for the friendship of others God and thank you for the gift of Your Son Jesus Christ who gave His life for us. In Jesus name I pray, AMEN!
Pastor Brad Komgenick