The title of tonight’s blog post are the two words that are the largest cause divorce, conflict, arguments and war in the world today.
James 4:1-2 says, “quarrels come when you want something but you do not get it.” Yep, that sounds like selfishness to me. God knows that it is within our very human nature to be selfish people. Once a baby catches on to how to actually feed themselves they actually get angry when a parent tries to help them. Even when we are babies, we try to show the world just how self-sufficient we are.
Only thinking about yourself and your needs will certainly lead you to having shallow relationships that never last, and then that leads to depression and sorrow. We let our egos get in the way of truly loving other people. You know that EGO really stands for “edging God out”. You make yourself God when you always put yourself at the center of the universe. You could never handle being God, so why even act like you want that job?
God warns us again and again about selfishness. Proverbs 28:25 teaches, “selfishness only causes trouble and strife.” Philippians 2:4 teaches, “look out for one anothers interest and not just your own.” Galatians 6:7-8 teaches, “a person who plants selfishness reaps a harvest of weeds.” I could go on and on, but you get the picture. The next time you find yourself in an argument because your not getting your way or not getting something you want, keep these verses close to your heart and I bet you will find these things you want are not more important to you than the people you are fighting with.
The Bible also teaches us in Proverbs 16:18, “Pride goes before destruction.” Destruction of our relationships, our marriages, or businesses, our world. Pride often rears it head the most when we begin comparing ourselves to other people. We were made individually and uniquely by God, for God, not to be compared with our friends and neighbors.
Next, if you are stubborn and refuse to ever apologize, you are prideful. If you never admit when you are wrong, you are prideful. You see, pride is self-deceiving. Everyone around you can see when you are being prideful, but you cannot. You are too busy being self-righteousness to see how you are behaving.
Humility is the antidote to pride. In fact, 1 Peter 3:8 is the best Bible verse I know that teaches us how we are to act in order to have true loving relationships with others. It teaches, “live in harmony, be sympathetic, love one another, have compassion, and be humble.” Can you just imagine if everyone treated each other this way? We would never dislike going to work, or serving others. Ok so I just described Heaven and we know that Earth will never truly be like this until Jesus return, but that is no reason to stop trying to be nice and authentic with others and put their needs before ours.
I will end with this: psychology shows that you become more like those you spend the most time with. So might I suggest that you spend more time with Jesus? To begin with, you live because He lives. You have the ability to spend eternity in Heaven because He died for you. He is humble. He loves us unconditionally. He WANTS to talk with you and hear from you always. He never leaves you alone to fend for yourself.
Lay down your selfishness and your pride before they drive away those who care for you most. This includes Jesus. Remember EGO drives God right out of your life.
Pastor Brad Komgenick