Tonight I’d like to speak about the importance of telling your true story. What do I mean by this?
Telling our stories is how we authenticate who we really are.
Our lives are our own stories – we live them every day, for better or for worse. Yet if I were to ask you to tell me your story, would I get the real truth from you about you? Or would I get a “version” of your story that you want me to know?
Telling our stories is how we authenticate who we really are. There is power in that sentence so I will repeat it – telling our stories is how we authenticate who we really are! When we deny them and put forward lies, or half-truths about who we really wish to be instead of who we really are, then we are living out someone else’s story and we bury our true selves. We die before we are supposed to. Further, we are telling God that He made a mistake and we really should be someone else.
I often hear this from people, “Well Brad, I really do not have a story.” What they are really telling me is this, “Well Brad, I’d rather get eaten by a lion than tell you about me because if I were being honest, I don’t very much like me. In fact, I can’t stand me and I’d rather be anyone else than me.”
The real problem comes in this – when we live a lie out long enough, then we become the lie we are telling – it becomes our new reality. The truth then becomes fuzzy to you. You can lose your true self in it. Then you are forced to live in your lie, which forces your lies to have to get larger and larger to make you feel good about yourself.
God tells us that the truth will set us free. But God also understands that there is going to be pain in telling the truth. We are going to have to face things we do not want to face. We must come to terms with the fact that we did things we are not proud of or wish we never did. We might even have to face having something done to us that we would never speak about out loud to another human being because of the so-called shame of it.
Please believe me when I tell you this – your healing begins with your true story. With telling it. With coming to terms with it. As well, when you tell your story, you might just be telling it to someone who needs to hear it to understand that they are not alone in their suffering that is their story.
Your story is important. Your story must never be lost to a lie. Your story, like all stories, has painful parts in it. If you are human, and you are, pain is a part of life. Those who live successfully have learned to face pain head on and drive right through it. Those who suffer in life let pain define them.
For your sake, tell your story! Tell it proudly. It is who you are! God made you to be you – not to be someone else. God loves you exactly the way you are. Out of all the parents in the world, God brought yours together for the sole purpose of making you! You are special. You are unique!
Tell your true story. I’d love to hear it and I’d love to see the healing that comes from your telling it and sharing it with others who need it desperately.
Pastor Brad Komgenick