Have you ever heard the acronym ‘EGR’ before? I had not heard of it until I was speaking with a parent of a child I have been working with recently. This child has anger issues that are off the scale. Whenever things do not seem to go their way, they have been known to sometimes get violent with those around them, or else they may even hurt themselves in a fit of rage.
While the parent was explaining to me all of the things their child had broken around the house, including furniture, walls, mirrors, and even doors, they never took their eyes off me and they never seemed in the least like they were distressed over the situation. They were simply looking for someone to help their child figure out their anger issues.
I mentioned to this parent that although it seemed that things were pretty bad with their child, they seemed to be handling it all very well.
Then the parent told me that their child was simply an “E.G.R.” child. So I had to ask what E.G.R. was.
E.G.R. = Extra Grace Required
Extra Grace Required. Wow, that is a powerful acronym isn’t it? Have you ever met ANYONE who might be an E.G.R. person? I work with them each and every day but I never saw them in this light before.
More often than not they get labeled as ‘troubled’, or ‘hopeless’, or ‘lost’. E.G.R. describes them in a loving way that I think Jesus would certainly approve of.
Extra Grace Required.
Just saying it takes the sting out of the situation. It reminds us that no matter what situations we find ourselves in or our family members in, we all need grace, and some of us need a little more than others. Yet we are all God’s children and He loves us all just the same.
Extra Grace Required.
Maybe, just maybe, if we showed more people some extra grace, we might have such a positive affect on the world that God would once again be proud of us. Our society filled with “me first” mentality, and “get all you can while you are alive” greediness, and “do unto others before they do unto you” misshaping of the Bible has left us in world that seems to care less and less for each other every passing day. Yet here is a parent who has every right to be beside themselves due to their child’s condition, yet they are willing to give them extra grace.
I am an Extra Grace Required person myself, and I am happy to say that. I mess up all the time – “Why do I do the things I do not want to do, and do not do the things I wish to do?” Yet through it all, Jesus just smiles at me and says, “He’s an E.G.R. person for sure and I’ll happily supply it to him.”
As you read this, can you think of any E.G.R. people in your life? If so, and we all can because we are one, why not find ways to offer them the extra grace they need? Maybe, just maybe, you’ll change the world!
Pastor Brad Komgenick